Mrs.JYW & Mr.DJW sittin’
in [by] a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G…
First comes LOVE
Then comes MARRIAGE
Then comes BABY in the baby carriage.
(This baby looks close enough to a half Polish/German & half Korean mix, no? )
So here we are, 1 year & 2 months into our wedded bliss, happily embarking on the next chapter of our lives! **NO WE ARE NOT PREGNANT YET!!!!!** Again, **NO WE ARE NOT PREGNANT YET!!!!!**
There’s a plethora of resources and endless amounts of information when it comes to all things BABY, but I wanted to start by blogging about how we got here, the decision to “try to conceive.”
Our original plan was to wait until after our 2 year anniversary in 2012. We, of course, had a list of “to-do”s to accomplish before planning for babies. Our list was no different than any other couple in our shoes. We wanted to be settled into our first home, pay down our debts, and have a comfortable nest egg “In Case of Emergency.”
Luckily, we were blessed to have purchased our home a year prior to our wedding day. (*Mr.DJW actually proposed on our final walk through night before closing.) The first year was spent getting settled in, putting in $$ for maintenance repairs, and just getting used to the bills and responsibilities of home ownership. We also spent that first year paying for part of our wedding. Needless to say, we weren’t financially stable and wanted to spend some “us” time together enjoying marriage without babies.
Our wedding day came and went; our first year of marriage flew by just as fast. Throughout the year, Mr.DJW and I would catch baby fever at different times and shake each other out of it. With both of our grad school programs + full time work, we just couldn’t justify trying to have babies in 2011.
However, when my 28th birthday rolled around this past August, we had “future baby” talks with our parents over a family birthday dinner. Both of us couldn’t shake the adorable images of our dads holding tiny lil’ babies out of our heads and Mr.DJW got really excited about big family trips to Disney World. That’s when both of us caught the fever, together,AT. THE. SAME. TIME! It was hard to shake it out of our system. But, we got a hold of ourselves and left the baby plans just as we had planned: try in September 2012.
A month later during our 1 year anniversary trip to Cabo, our fever came back on fire! All of the couples we’d met on our trip were ALL trying. (They’d gotten married in September 2010 as well.) We were surrounded by baby talk and when we got back, it’s all we could talk about, outside of our normal duties of work/home life. We realized that checklist of “to-do”s we had were all achieved, but one: my grad school degree (which had already changed due to my dropping out of law school and switching to an MBA program). I knew that my flexible program could work well within our timeline for baby making and so we started to have serious talks.
We started throwing around timelines, what season I’d prefer to be pregnant, how to get in our best shape, etc. From there we’d decided that even though we were anxious and eager to start trying, we wanted to make sure that we did all of the right things in preparation and that the start of the new year would give us time to get off medication (BC, etc.), start a manageable and achievable workout regiment, and enjoy the holidays before diving into full-on baby making mode.
So, here we are. October was the month that we really started making baby steps toward the baby making journey, but I’ll recap that in a future post. We’re currently NTNTC (not trying not to conceive) with plans to actively TTC (try to conceive) in January 2012!
Here’s to all things TTC & BABY! CHEERS!
– Do you want to have children or have children? How did you decide?