AJ: A Birth Story

Hi all!

I apologize in advance if this is too much info for some of you. And it’s long. So please don’t feel obligated to read in detail. I’m writing this for future reference and memory’s sake.

The Last Few Weeks

Throughout the majority of my pregnancy Austin was low in my belly. So I wasn’t too shocked to hear that at 35.5 weeks, my cervix had already started thinning *ahead of schedule.*

I didn’t get too excited since I’d read so many different progression stories and knew that I was more likely to carry to or past my due date since that’s how it goes for most first time moms.

The next few wks dragged on simply because I was getting bigger and more uncomfortable. By week 39, I was debating whether or not I should opt for a membrane sweep. At this point, I had progressed to about 2cm dilation, 50% effacement, soft cervix, low and engaged baby head.

After talking with a few mama friends, I decided not to ask for one at my 39w1d appt. But, my ob def did a more thorough cervical check. I lost my mucus plug 24 hrs later and throughout the day following.

However aside from mild cramping, my due date came and went without a sign of real labor. Even though we tried everything under the sun (sex, eating pineapple, spicy foods, evening primrose oil, exercise ball, hours of walking, accupressure, etc.) Austin was on his own schedule and there was no convincing him otherwise!

At my 40w1d appt on 11/19/12, my ob did a full membrane sweep and we also scheduled our induction for 6am 11/21/12! Due to the holiday and doc’s schedule, Wed was our best fit for not going past 41 weeks (the latest ob would let me carry). Plus, the way I felt the last week of pregnancy both mentally and physically – I needed an end in sight. I was fighting feelings of guilt and selfishness; but needed that induction date as a means to an end getting through each day.

Mr.Dubs and I spent the rest of our day shopping at Sam’s Club and grabbing a bite to eat Chammp’s. We came home and then I went to spend some QT with my lil bro (so happy he’s home!) and then ate pizza and watched Monday Night Football with hubby.

I went to bed feeling fine, though, my bloody show had appeared before the night was over. I didn’t really think much of it, since the mucus plug previously didn’t mean anything for me labor-wise.

Early Labor

I think I fell asleep around midnight, and while I had a few more bathroom breaks than usual — I slept mostly through the night ’til 6 am. I was so happy! It was two hours more than I’d been sleeping for the past week or so.

I started feeling some pelvic pressure and mild menstrual cramping – so I headed to the guest bath and then laid down in the guest room to give Mr.Dubs some peace and quiet to sleep. I really wasn’t sure if I was in early labor and wanted him to get a good night’s rest.

So back and forth from the guest room and bathroom for about two hours. Then around 8-830am I was able to fall asleep for another hour. Then at 10am, I woke up with what I felt was my first REAL contraction. I headed over to our room and woke up Mr.Dubs (he was getting up anyway), and told him all my symptoms. “I think today is the day babe…!”

We spent most of the morning, eating our last bfast together as a family of two + two furbabies, showering, getting ready, and making our phone calls to our parents to let them know the day’s schedule!

From 10 am – 12 pm, contractions were about 10 to 15 min apart. Intense, but not painful yet. So I told Mr.Dubs that I wanted to wait it out for as long as possible. This lasted until 4pm, when my contractions became sporadically 3, 5, 7 minutes apart and we both decided to head to the hospital while I was still mobile and able to get through the pain.

Because I was past my due date, they checked us in right away. The L&D wing was in its last day of renovations, so we had some unexpected delays including a check-in nurse who didn’t mind taking her (sweet ass time) asking unnecessary questions. (Mr.Dubs almost went off… :P ).

(Yep, the Friends episode where Erica gives birth to Chandler & Monica’s twins was on.)

(I had no idea the pain that was to come the following morning.)

Anyway, we got settled into our room fairly quickly and the on-call resident checked me. Little change, I was still only at 2cm, 60-70% effaced. It was just a long waiting game. Mr.Dubs ate some dinner, my mom came a few hours later. And I had the joy of laboring on my own from 530pm – 330am. The last hour of contractions just about did me in, but my mom got me through them. (Mr.Dubs was trying to get some shut eye… as I wanted him to be alert for the next day.).

By 4am, I had my epidural and I was in heaven. Everything had gone smoothly and my nurse Nou was absolutely amazing in supporting me through my first hospital stay/epidural! After my mom and Mr.Dubs came back to the room, we all got some sleep for a few hours. By 8am on Wednesday morning, I had progressed to 8 cm, 80% effacement.

Active Labor & Pushing

After a shift change, Cheryl my new nurse started a pitocin drip to speed up my contractions. I didn’t feel a thing! Then around 9am, my ob FINALLY (who we never really liked) showed up to tell me that I was at 9 cm, but if I didn’t progress to 10 cm in another hour, we’d C-SECTION him out!

He said it so nonchalantly and walked right on out. Mr.Dubs and I were both floored, but it really hit me hard and I had a lil’ breakdown. Mr.Dubs was able to calm me down and told me that I had nothing to worry about because I’d be fully dilated soon. (Thank goodness for my dear husband!)

Before I knew it, 10am rolled around, and even though I still hadn’t made it to 10cm, I started to feel heavy urges to push. My OB’s resident came by and manually tried to push back the last of my cervix and from there — I was pushing 30 minutes later.

Maybe it was fate, or just my dumb luck, but my (@$$hole) OB was stuck in the middle of (YUP) a c-section for another patient, so his partner – Dr. Levin came for Austin’s delivery. Dr. Levin, two residents, my nurse, Mr.Dubs, and my mom were all in the room with me as I faced the most excruciatingly painful two hours of my 29 years of life.

Even though my epidural had taken well, (I could still move my feet/legs, but felt numb from my belly to my thighs. I could still feel the pelvic pressure and urges to push.) when it came time to push, OH MY WORD, the pain. It wasn’t the same type of pain as the contractions. It was a whole different ball game.

The last hour is a blur. I have no idea how I found the strength to push besides my amazing husband who was the best coach ever! With every contraction/push, he knew just what to say to get me to the next push. I do recall saying things like “please kill me” “babe, I can’t do this” “oh my god, I’m dying” and “PLEASE JUST CUT ME OPEN!”

In the end, Austin was a lot bigger than any of us had anticipated. And he was located just past my opening, Dr. Levin decided to do an episiotomy (which he doesn’t readily practice unless necessary) and two glorious pushes later – Austin was out! :)

I can’t even put into words the emotional and physical relief I felt the moment Austin was born. They immediately put him on my chest and the intense bond and love I felt is truly indescribable. Even as I sit here typing about the moment, I can’t help but tear up at the memory of the best moment of my life.

Mr.Dubs was able to cut the umbilical cord and we spent the next hour getting skin-to-skin time and nursing and enjoying our first time as a family of three.

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We are so, so blessed.

BabyBoyDubs Bump Update: 39/40 weeks

How far along/EDD: 39w6d | 11/18/12 (according to our first dating u/s) 11/16/12 according to my O day.

Total Weight Gain: 38-39 lbs! I was up to 40 lbs at 176, but in the last couple of weeks, I hover right around 174-175.

Stretch Marks: No stretch marks, but I do have really thin, dark veins that I hope won’t pop in the next few weeks. Belly button is still in (except after big meals, it flattens a bit!), no e-ring/wedding band. Wearing fake rings, so I don’t feel naked.

Names Picked: In less than a week, I’ll tell you :)

Milestones: Every day is a new milestone of my patience! Haha.

Struggles: Pregnancy insomnia. Unfortunately, it was not a fluke and this last week I’ve been getting up at all hours of the night, wide awake and unable to fall back asleep. Inundated with (phantom) pre-labor signs, I’ve been able to read my way back to short naps, but regardless, it’s been a shitty sleep schedule. (Practice for newborn care?). Elsewise, I’m okay — it’s hard to breathe because baby boy is taking up so much space; and keeping dinner down? Don’t ask. But, I’m okay, otherwise!

What are you most fearful/concerned about: So I managed to avoid the membrane sweep, but after an invasive cervical check at my last appt, I lost my mucus plug a day after. (Got my hopes up!) Alas, we’re still waiting. Monday is my next appt past 40 weeks and we will be discussing an induction for Monday night or Tuesday – (due to the holiday). So now I’m all worried about induction, but thanks to mama friends – feel assured that if this happens to be our labor path, I will be okay.

What are you most excited about: MEETING OUR BABY BOY. In less than a week, in just a mere few days!

 

Bump pic: 39w6d – last bump pic! :*)

BabyBoyDubs Bump Update: Week 38 (/39?)

How far along/EDD: 38w5d | 11/18/12 (according to our first dating u/s) 11/16/12 according to my O day.

Total Weight Gain: 38-39 lbs!

Stretch Marks: No stretch marks, but I do have really thin, dark veins that I hope won’t pop in the next few weeks. Belly button is still in (except after big meals, it flattens a bit!), no e-ring/wedding band. Wearing fake rings, so I don’t feel naked.

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Names Picked: WANT TO ANNOUNCE SO BADLY! :P

Milestones: Every day is a new milestone of my patience! Haha.

Struggles: Heartburn has been back with a vengeance this week. I also can’t keep food down, even though I’m starving all day long. :( Luckily, I’m sleeping fairly well for this late in the game. Mr.Dubs says I snore when I end up on my back, so I’ve been trying to really be conscious of sleeping on my sides. I feel bad ‘cuz he usually ends up on the couch :( He’s being a trooper! :) <3 This morning, I woke up at 5am and couldn’t fall back asleep until 730am. I hope it was just a fluke and not the start of pregnancy insomnia.

What are you most fearful/concerned about: Induction, C-section possibility, Breastfeeding… Monday is my 39 week appt and I’m technically supposed to have my membranes swept. After talking to Colleen, I think I’m going to request not to have this done and just wait it out. The chances of a membrane stripping bringing on labor is slim and could potentially lead to c-section, so I’m going to try and avoid that path. (Unless I’ve progressed a LOT since last Tuesday and Dr. says it will work.)

What are you most excited about: MEETING OUR BABY BOY. (Don’t expect a change in this answer in the next month!)

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Putting up Christmas decorations! We usually don’t do it until the weekend after Thanksgiving, but with baby on the way– I have a feeling it won’t get done unless I do it in this last week or so before labor. It’s supposed to be a bit warmer out (60 degrees instead of 30!) so Mr.Dubs is going to get the outdoor lights up later this weekend.

My lil’ brother flew in safely from NYC yesterday and he’s here for three weeks! I hope to maximize our time with him while he’s in town. :)

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Bump pic: 38w5d (mama got her hairrrr did today :P )

The Home Stretch

Sorry for the lack of blog posts in the last few weeks, I mean to write posts, schedule them, take photos, and be diligent about upkeeping this here journal – but, alas life and my laziness get the best of me and here we are; down to barely making my weekly posts on time.

Anywho, for the purpose of keeping my few blog readers and friends interested, (and for my own amusement in the future as a first time mom), I wanted to write this post about this last stretch of pregnancy.

The past 9 months have been a whirlwind of life and pregnancy. I still vividly recall the moment I was crouched down on my bathroom rug, anxiously awaiting the “pregnant” sign to pop up on my home pregnancy test. I remember the first tears and whispered screams of telling Bailey & Buddy about how we were going to have a baby! To think that was back in the first week of March of this year? Time has FLOWN by and I can only imagine that it’s only going to by even faster in these ensuing months (years).

I’ve been blessed to have an average, normal pregnancy and even still this experience has opened my eyes to a completely uninhabited, new land of womanhood and impending motherhood that I could not have ever imagined or anticipated in my wildest dreams.

You grow up, get married, have a kid. A simple, conventional thought that has morphed into a completely surreal and awe-inspiring experience is all that culminates for me in my personal experience with pregnancy. From the unexpected bodily changes of weight gain and hormonal outrages (at my dear husband) to the first butterfly flutters of my (alien) baby inside my growing belly – no one could’ve prepared me for all of the ups and downs of pregnancy.

It’s been a roller coaster of emotion and physical changes and yet here in these last few weeks, I’ve experienced even more highs and lows than in the previous 9 months.

One day I’ll wake up with a never-ending to-do list, determined to make every minute count. Other days, I’ll lay in bed forever, trying to feel Baby Boy Dubs’ movements and freaking out if I haven’t felt a major shove or kick. My weekly doctor appointments haven’t kept me all that calm either. While, Baby Boy and I are doing fine and are completely healthy; the lack of or too much knowledge of labor progression symptoms (dilation, effacement, etc.) is getting the best of me.

I’ve been progressing pretty steadily since week 35 and we are nearing the 39 week mark. Needless to say this past month has been a back and forth battle with my patience. I’ve been over and under analyzing every (phantom) symptom and I’m just about done with the waiting!

It’s been a real privilege to be able to work from home and also nice to spend these last few nights of “us” time with Mr.Dubs — but y’all — I’M READY for this baby to be on the outside.

As we approach the 39 week mark, the only thing getting me through is putting up Christmas decorations and my lil bro’s flight home! (He’ll be here for three weeks! Pending Athena’s plan to cancel all NYC flights tomorrow.) At my 39.5 week appt next Tuesday, I will be getting my membranes swept. Hoping that does the trick! ;)

Be back with my week 38 post tomorrow! Good evening all!

BabyBoyDubs Update: Week 37

How far along/EDD: 37w5d | 11/18/12

Total Weight Gain: 37-38 lbs! So when I weighed in this past Tues, nurse/doc confirmed that last week’s weigh in must have been a fluke, I’m still right around 173-174 depending on the time of day.

Stretch Marks: No stretch marks, but I do have really thin, dark veins that I hope won’t pop in the next few weeks. Belly button is still in (except after big meals, it flattens a bit!), no e-ring/wedding band

Names Picked: Yep! We’ve told my brother, BFFs, and our parents. Mr.Dubs told our mortgage loan officer/co-worker yesterday when we were filing papers to close on our refinance! :O So I told one of my work friends via messenger this morning to even it out! :P Keeping the official announcement a surprise until he’s here!

Milestones: We officially hit full-term status last weekend. BabyBoyDubs can come any time now! Though, Ideally I’d like to stay another week at least (right in between 38-39 weeks).

Struggles: I’m starting to mentally hit that point of no return. I’m ready for this baby to be out! And to be able to move my body around like pre-pregnancy days! It’s really frustrating for me to lie down and relax because I’ve always been prone to thrive more in the busy, to-do, errand setting. I’m having to tell myself to relax and not overdo it a lot. Especially in these last few weeks of life without a newborn. Other than that, I’ve been having a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions. My stomach gets rock hard all over and it’s really uncomfortable, but I haven’t had any pain yet. I think baby boy is also starting to straighten out a bit. His butt is usually right underneath my rib cage, above my belly button. And boy is it uncomfortable for most of the day!

What are you most fearful/concerned about: Going past my due date and being induced. I’ll deal with it regardless, but it’s something I’d like to avoid.

What are you most excited about: MEETING OUR BABY BOY. (Don’t expect a change in this answer in the next month!)

Mr.Dubs and I had a great night of Halloween festivities :) Ate Korean/Chinese fusion take-out, laid by the fire, and watched ‘scary’ movies! (Mr.Dubs also passed out a ton of candy!) I’m looking forward to another weekend of QT with hubby! I’m really trying to soak up “us” time in these last few weeks. So I have at least a vague reminder of how much I love my dear husband in the wee hours of newborn feedings and exhaustion that is about to ensue!

Bump pic: 37w4d